Category Archives: Relationships

my world ends on a regular basis. (knowing #1)

It’s amazing how rarely you actually know a person.

One of Youtube’s recommended videos for me today was “Fergalicious.” It justified it by saying it was because I watched Lisa Mitchell’s “Oh! Hark!” video (whose lyrics are this post’s title)…obviously The Man knows nothing about me.

At the same time, I can’t really blame Youtube–or Facebook–for trying. The fact that my status is “single” might very well mean that I’m looking to meet hot guys online. Targeted marketing is all about stereotypes, and sometimes that seems unfair…but if we’re honest about it, we all need/use stereotypes to function.

How would we survive if we had to start from square one with every person that we met, without making any assumptions first?┬áIt’d be fantastic if we could actually pull it off–but it’d be an exhausting process.

As it stands, my goal is to let my stereotypes shift as much as possible as I get to know people better–the stereotypes are the temporary sketch I need to work with, but there’s plenty of detail to add that will make my final picture of that person less of a Picasso and a little more true-to-life.

The wording there was a nod to my art-major friends who just graduated.

“Kindness and intelligence don’t always deliver us from the pitfalls and traps: there are always failures of love, of will, of imagination. There is no way to take the danger out of human relationships.” -Barbara Harrison

beginnings and endings

Well, here I am…back into the blog world after an *insert insanely high number here*-month-long hiatus.

I guess I just had this idea that I was too busy in college to be writing letters to the internet. You know, unless it was something I had a deadline for or was being graded on. [I’m not, which is why I ended that last sentence with a preposition.]

Maybe partly it was just knowing that I won’t necessarily have a fan base. I know people follow my Twitter because Twitter tells me they do, and that gives me more motivation to post–because people apparently seem interested. But it’s a lot easier to keep a person’s attention for 140 characters than an entire blog post.

And why would I write something that I don’t know if anyone (besides my mom) is going to read?

Maybe partially for practice. If I don’t write, I don’t get any better, and then all of a sudden all those super nice things my high school English teachers said about me don’t add up to my actual written portfolio. I have to have something to show for whenever someone actually does look.

Additionally, my memory isn’t the greatest, and even looking back at my silly high school blog (guitardork13.livejournal.com, oh yes), has given me some much-needed perspective during some of my crappier college days. I can only imagine what documenting some of college will do for the rest of my life.

So, this will be my version of my dad’s crazy college journals…because I only have one more year, and Facebook pictures won’t tell the whole story.